Guess what? Your kids and teens won’t stay in the same frame of mind forever! This can be either wonderful or distressing, depending on what stage of parenting you are in. Dr. Arnold Gesell demonstrated over 60 years ago that child development advances in a spiral pattern, going from one extreme to another. His theories still hold true today. For example, here are some typical teen-aged behaviors over a span of 3 years:
When children are young, power struggles can be a real test of your parental authority to see what happens when the day to day routine is changed up a bit. When your children are teenagers, power struggles are more complicated, because your child is able to reason and negotiate with you. Yet in both situations, a child is practicing his skills for the real world, and parents should always remember this – getting our children to adulthood is the goal, and creating responsible, thoughtful adults is our job.
When children are approaching kindergarten age, they are beginning to understand more complex situations, and are able to play more independently. Four- and five-year-olds are learning new skills every day, and are becoming more aware of the world around them. Their view on the world moves from being egocentric (“The world revolves around me, and me only!”) to ethnocentric (“The world revolves around me, my family, and my community.”)
I just finished reading an article, "Forget one-size-fits-all solution to work-family balancing act" by Ana Veciana-Suarez in the online version of the Chicago Tribune. I think she makes very valid points, and because of my own personal history of bouncing between full-time employment, part-time employment and several variations in between, it spoke to me. Ms.
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